…Loud desperation, on the other hand, is apparent to those “on the outside looking in.” If you look at a person’s life, the things they do, you can tell if they are desperate because they are living their desperation OUT LOUD. Here are some examples of loud desperation….
Assuming you’re not a people pleaser, what’s the first thing you want to say when someone asks you to do something that you don’t want to do? NO! A big, fat, resounding NO! If it’s not in your nature to take any B.S., disrespect, or anything else that would generally or specifically waste your time, the answer would be NO, right?
But let me ask you this: How does NO really serve you? Of course say NO to drugs, abuse, and all of the obvious scenarios, but, I challenge you to say YES to everything else.
By last fall, I had put on 17 lbs. of excess weight. This weight was a product of depression, becoming sedentary, and being stressed. Now add to that me having little knowledge of how to control my weight, and I was a balloon waiting to blow up.
I had gained and lost weight time and time again, but had not discovered the secret to maintaining my ideal weight (within 5 lbs.). Then, one of my very close friends recommended the app “myfitnesspal” and I began using it.
This was a life-changer.
You know how it is, you hear a song you like and you push the replay button, or you’re watching a video and you push the replay button. You play it again and again until you know it by heart. Unfortunately, many of us hit the replay button when bad things happen—we play it again and again in our minds and just won’t let it go.
The dangers of hitting the replay button in your mind is that you are actually ruminating, or worrying, about whatever it is. You begin to relive it over and over, time and time again. This replay can cause stress, depression, obesity, a loss of present time, a loss of future time, unhappiness, feelings of unworthiness, hopelessness, physical pain, emotional pain, disease, anger, frustration, envy, jealousy, dementia…and the list actually could go on and on.