Closed Doors

How many times have we said things like, “I’m NEVER going to let anyone hurt me again!” Or, “I’m NEVER going to fall in love again!” Or, “I’m not going to EVER let anyone get that close to me again!” And how about, “No one gets to EVER use me again!” Oh, and let’s not forget this one: “…I PROMISE you that!” This may be how we feel at the time; we’re speaking out from the pain of being so brokenhearted. But with these statements comes problems. How?

BECAUSE THESE STATEMENTS, FELT SO DEEPLY, ARE ACTUALLY VOWS (yes, vows) THAT WE ARE MAKING THAT CLOSE US OFF FROM THE POSSIBILITY OF HAVING WHAT IT IS THAT WE REALLY WANT. Continue Reading…

Loud Desperation

We’ve all heard of “quiet desperation,” which is when someone is suffering in silence, maybe feeling desperate to have a particular need met. Many times we only learn of their desperation after their suffering is over.  At this point we usually hear someone say things like, “I didn’t know she was going through all THAT!” Or, “I had no idea. She never said a word.”

Loud desperation, on the other hand, is apparent to those “on the outside looking in.” If you look at a person’s life, the things they do,  you can tell if they are desperate because they are living their desperation OUT LOUD. Here are some examples of loud desperation:Continue Reading…

Just Say “YES!”

Assuming you’re not a people pleaser, what’s the first thing you want to say when someone asks you to do something that you don’t want to do? NO! A big, fat, resounding NO! If it’s not in your nature to take any B.S., disrespect, or anything else that would generally or specifically waste your time, the answer would be NO, right?

But let me ask you this: How does NO really serve you? Of course say NO to drugs, abuse, and all of the obvious scenarios, but, I challenge you to say YES to everything else.

Why?Continue Reading…

My Simple Weight Loss Plan

By last fall, I had put on 17 lbs. of excess weight. This weight was a product of depression, becoming sedentary, and being stressed. Now add to that me having little knowledge of how to control my weight, and I was a balloon waiting to blow up.

I had gained and lost weight time and time again, but had not discovered the secret to maintaining my ideal weight (within 5 lbs.). Then, one of my very close friends recommended the app “myfitnesspal” and I began using it.

This was a life-changer.Continue Reading…