3 Ways to Beat the Christmas Blues

Not everyone is caught up in the Christmas spirit; some people actually have the Christmas Blues. You know, where you care, but you’re just not feeling it? If you are one of those people, but want to get out of that funk and experience the holidays more fully, try one of the following ways to help you beat the Christmas Blues.christmas bluesContinue Reading…

Defining MY Blackness, Part 1

I recently read yet another article where a black person was not altogether claiming her blackness. She was black, however, she stated that she considered herself more “international.” International, or not, black is black.

So again, I started thinking about what BLACK is to me and wondering if it’s so different for any other black person. TO ME, if you were born in America and have African ancestry (or even Caribbean) as well as a blend of other races, you’re black, especially if you look black. My own genetic makeup is a blend of African (who knows from which country  or tribe?–and I’ve heard Caribbean as well), Cherokee Indian (or so I’m told), and white (or Caucasian, if you prefer). And TO ME, this blend, being multiracial with African being the predominant origin, is what makes me BLACK.

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My Conversation With A Millionaire

We’ve all heard before that you need to think like the rich in order to get the things that the rich have. So,  I thought it would be interesting to interview one of the few millionaires that I know. This particular millionaire (let’s call him “Evan”) is a young, intelligent, educated, fun-loving, eligible, black man who has learned a few things along the way and didn’t mind sharing his some of his experiences and thoughts with me. Here is our quite candid conversation:

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Closed Doors

How many times have we said things like, “I’m NEVER going to let anyone hurt me again!” Or, “I’m NEVER going to fall in love again!” Or, “I’m not going to EVER let anyone get that close to me again!” And how about, “No one gets to EVER use me again!” Oh, and let’s not forget this one: “…I PROMISE you that!” This may be how we feel at the time; we’re speaking out from the pain of being so brokenhearted. But with these statements comes problems. How?

BECAUSE THESE STATEMENTS, FELT SO DEEPLY, ARE ACTUALLY VOWS (yes, vows) THAT WE ARE MAKING THAT CLOSE US OFF FROM THE POSSIBILITY OF HAVING WHAT IT IS THAT WE REALLY WANT. Continue Reading…