You keep waiting for him to change. You’re tired of paying the bills by yourself, cleaning by yourself, taking care of the kids by yourself, and being taken advantage of . He doesn’t even want to work because no job is good enough, or because he’s tired of his boss “disrespecting” him, or some other lame excuse. And besides all of that, he doesn’t even treat you right.
So what’s a girl to do? That all depends on what you want. If you want to kick him to the curb, then you don’t need to read any further. BUT, if you want your husband, if you want your marriage, if you want him to change, let’s continue.
So, I’ve been pondering the popular phrase failure to launch all day—it’s just been sticking with me. We’ve all heard of the movie. Some even thought it was funny. But, so many can identify with it on some level because in some area of our lives, we have failed to launch.
Failure to launch happens when you don’t leave your comfort zone when it’s clearly time to leave it. You may say you want to go to college, get a better job, buy a house, or start a new business—and you may even talk about it for years—and STILL you never do it. Or, you may do all the busy work that’s behind the scenes, but when it comes to putting a spark to that match, you just don’t do it.
Let’s face it: There are plenty of good men out there and some women are blessed to be married to some of them! But do you really treat that good husband the way he deserves to be treated? PLEASE tell me you are not neglecting the very man you should be honoring and loving! There are plenty of ways you can show him special treatment, some are no-brainers and some you can feel free to use your imagination. Here are 10 of the ways that I’ve decided to share with you (and in no particular order). Read on….
Okay, ladies, we are too old to still be falling for the okey doke. Which okey doke? The one when you fall for what someone says, which is completely contrary to what they do. Specifically, when your man whispers in your ear, “Baby, you know I love you.” Then he cusses you out when you ask him about a woman’s phone number in his pocket when he was supposed to be at his momma’s house. Cognitively, we KNOW this is not love–to be lied to and cheated on. But because he said THOSE words–”I love you”–we are willing to tolerate just about anything because of how THOSE words made us FEEL. Our heart tells us he loves us, but his actions are screaming that he doesn’t.
Do you find yourself in a lot of senseless arguments? Maybe you argue and fuss about the same things over and over again. Or, maybe you aren’t arguing about the same things, but you’re arguing with the same people. These folks know just how to push your buttons. Better yet, they dangle that bait out there in front of you, and just like a big fat hungry fish, you gobble it right up!
Many times people know exactly what they are doing when they bait you into an argument. They do it for several different reasons: