Some sista somewhere is going to read the title and say, “Hmmm, I’ll read on, but that’s not me.” Read on, sista, read on. I sincerely hope it’s not you, but it may be. Heck, before I knew such a thing existed as a layaway sista, I was already one myself! [Read more…]
Wait? Oh heck naw! I had never been good at waiting. And from my conversations with different sistas, I have learned that I am not alone. The main thing that many women seem to be waiting for is a man. I guess that was me in my late 20s and in my 30s, but after having kids and being divorced, waiting on a man is not something I am currently doing.
How did I get to this point?
You’re upset. You’re hurt. You’re angry and annoyed. Heck…you’re downright furious…livid even. And you act like it; yelling and screaming at the top of your lungs…acting like a crazy woman. You argue back, interrupt and interject. You got your finger pointing, spit flying, neck rolling…. You aren’t even making any sense. Or, you’re crying hysterically because…he left. Or he cheated. Same thing. Snot leaking down to your top lip, you think you’ll never love again, or be made a fool of again, or give it up so easily again. You start to eat–or stop eating completely. You sleep all the time–or don’t sleep at all. You don’t know if you are coming or going.
Girl, Get Ahold of Yourself! [Read more…]
Getting what you want is simple because God doesn’t make life complicated. But, it will require some spiritual work. Are you up for that?
For everything BIG I every wanted in my life, from earning my degrees to buying my houses to childrearing, I knew it would take more than ME, more than myself, my time, my energy, my money (what little I had), to make it happen. Anything bigger than me always required more than I had to make it happen. It took God. It took His infinite wisdom, Him working His miracles, moving mountains and having mercy on my naive little self. But, it did require something from me and here is what I needed to do. [Read more…]
It’s been over a year since I last wrote. Sometimes you have to just be still and let God work with you…and He has indeed been working with me. This is my truth…my journey….
In late summer 2015, my divorce became final. It became final, and I wasn’t sure exactly what I wanted to do next. What I DID know, was that I needed to honor myself by listening to myself, and learning what I truly wanted and needed. I knew that I could only learn this without distraction, which meant that I would make the conscious decision NOT to date. My not “dating” was not because I was scared of relationships or because I all of a sudden hated men, it was because I realized that whenever I really accomplished anything in my life (with the important exception of having my daughters), it was as a single woman. So, in order to gain the utmost clarity in my life, I would have to go it alone. [Read more…]