Okay, ladies, we are too old to still be falling for the okey doke. Which okey doke? The one when you fall for what someone says, which is completely contrary to what they do. Specifically, when your man whispers in your ear, “Baby, you know I love you.” Then he cusses you out when you ask him about a woman’s phone number in his pocket when he was supposed to be at his momma’s house. Cognitively, we KNOW this is not love–to be lied to and cheated on. But because he said THOSE words–”I love you”–we are willing to tolerate just about anything because of how THOSE words made us FEEL. Our heart tells us he loves us, but his actions are screaming that he doesn’t.
Many marriages today are challenged because of the feeling one or both people in the marriage have of being deprived of love. Somehow, one or both people become self-centered and self-absorbed and either don’t know how their partner feels or don’t rank it high in importance. I urge you to read this blog post 1) from the standpoint of examining YOURSELF, THEN 2) from the standpoint of examining your mate. I say this because it’s always easier to think “he’s doing this wrong and I’m doing this right.” I want you to challenge yourself. I want you to look at what you do right AND wrong. THEN, don’t look at your mate in terms of right and wrong, but in terms of what you need from him and HOW you need it.
This is just a piece of my story, an important part of my story, that I feel it is time I share. Depression can happen even to a Christian. Funny thing was, I didn’t even know I was depressed, until I was almost at the point where I couldn’t get out of bed.
Just like the body can get sick, so can the mind, and yes, depression IS a mental illness. Satan has so many people afraid to call the names of things. We can cast out demons of this and that and call THEM by name, but we don’t want to call Depression by it’s name. Call that beast by its name and deal with it head on in the name of Jesus!
“No mercy will be shown to these who show no mercy to others. Mercy triumphs over judgment.”
~James 2:13 (GWT)