I was lying in bed this morning, going through Bible Plans on my phone, and stumbled upon the Serenity Plan. I’ve always liked that word…serenity. So my interest was piqued and I started reading ahead and got to day 4. Day 4 encourages self-reflection and self-inventory. It encourages you to be painfully honest with yourself about yourself; it encourages you to admit what has hurt you deeply and also to admit what you did to hurt others so that you can eventually get to a place of healing and restoration.
Most people, myself included, will quickly say that they “are fine” and “all is well” when that’s clearly not the case. At times I watch people and their lives, or I listen to them and read between the lines. And, of course, I reflect on my own self and my life, and I’ve come to notice that
your life will tell on you.
When you are not being honest with yourself about how you feel/felt about some things and how these things affect(ed) you, eventually, your life will tell on you. Whether it was something or someone from your childhood that deeply hurt you or something or someone later in life, if you don’t admit it and deal with it, it will have it’s way with your life. I’ve noticed these 3 ways that your life will tell on you:
- You won’t be mentally “with it.” If you spend day in and day out thinking about the situation, person(s), or events, without constructively dealing with it, you literally may be at risk for developing mental issues such as forgetfulness, confusion, disorientation, losing gaps of time, impaired decision making, having difficulty focusing or paying attention, or more serious issues like clinical depression (I know about this one) or other mental issues. Imagine how this can affect your relationships, your job, etc.
- Your life will show how you treat people. If you abuse (mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, verbally) the people closest to you, or ignore or neglect the people closest to you, this is one way your life is telling on you. Your heart is displaying its pain and you are taking it out on those around you. Now, not only can people see your pain, you are causing them to feel it too. And you may even start to lose these people who cared the most about you.
- Your life (or at least one area) will seem to stop going forward and may even go in reverse. If you look at your life 5 years ago and compare it to today, and you are in the same point in your life, or a worse position in your life, you just may have a few unresolved issues you need to deal with. Growth can stop in any area of your life, but I’ve noticed that many times the areas that are affected the most are 1) financial areas and 2) romantic relationships. If your money matters (income, bank balance, job/career, housing, transportation, credit, etc.) seem to be taking a hit and you have trouble staying above water, you may have a few deep-rooted issues you need to deal with. Or, if you’ve been longing for that perfect mate and you keep thinking that each one IS THE ONE, but they aren’t, or if you can’t ever seem to “click,” “fit,” or “get on the same page,” with anyone, you may have some deep-seated issues you need to deal with, especially if each person you are with has the same or similar complaints about you or has the same or similar experiences with you (and you with them).
I’m not saying that everyone’s life should be perfect and that no one should experience setbacks. What I’m saying is when you look at your life both subjectively and objectively over a period of time, the quality of your life will reflect how you’re doing. And regardless of what your life looks like today, just know that if you go ahead and deal with your “stuff” at the deepest levels, you can be healed and restored and your life will eventually tell a completely different story about you soon enough.
All the best,
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