Some sista somewhere is going to read the title and say, “Hmmm, I’ll read on, but that’s not me.” Read on, sista, read on. I sincerely hope it’s not you, but it may be. Heck, before I knew such a thing existed as a layaway sista, I was already one myself! [Read more…]
Wait? Oh heck naw! I had never been good at waiting. And from my conversations with different sistas, I have learned that I am not alone. The main thing that many women seem to be waiting for is a man. I guess that was me in my late 20s and in my 30s, but after having kids and being divorced, waiting on a man is not something I am currently doing.
How did I get to this point?
You’re upset. You’re hurt. You’re angry and annoyed. Heck…you’re downright furious…livid even. And you act like it; yelling and screaming at the top of your lungs…acting like a crazy woman. You argue back, interrupt and interject. You got your finger pointing, spit flying, neck rolling…. You aren’t even making any sense. Or, you’re crying hysterically because…he left. Or he cheated. Same thing. Snot leaking down to your top lip, you think you’ll never love again, or be made a fool of again, or give it up so easily again. You start to eat–or stop eating completely. You sleep all the time–or don’t sleep at all. You don’t know if you are coming or going.
Girl, Get Ahold of Yourself! [Read more…]
I was lying in bed this morning, going through Bible Plans on my phone, and stumbled upon the Serenity Plan. I’ve always liked that word…serenity. So my interest was piqued and I started reading ahead and got to day 4. Day 4 encourages self-reflection and self-inventory. It encourages you to be painfully honest with yourself about yourself; it encourages you to admit what has hurt you deeply and also to admit what you did to hurt others so that you can eventually get to a place of healing and restoration. [Read more…]
Ladies, I woke up with this weighing heavily on my mind and I just had to put this out there. When it comes to listening to foolishness, we gots to be mo’ careful. I’m going to warn you now that this post will not be completely grammatically correct, so for those who just cannot deal with it, I will not be offended if you choose to miss this message…that may be meant for you.
We have got to stop being so gotdaggum stupid! There. I said it. And I know you may not agree, but it’s true. So, he gets you the first time…yeah, you got got. It happens…to all of us. But then again? And again? And again? Whoever said “follow your heart” gave the worst advice EVER and we keep listening to it! [Read more…]