It took forever for me to have an inkling as to what my purpose was. I had figured out that I liked being a sounding board, and helping women figure their relationship stuff out, but that was about it. At one crucial point in my life I had strongly considered getting a degree in counseling, but I allowed myself to be talked out of it by one simple phrase: “You won’t make any money in counseling.”
Okay, I turned 47 (yes, 47—what? That’s not old!) yesterday and I’ve certainly learned, or realized, a lot more than 47 things in my 47 years. But, as I was reflecting on my life and some of my lessons, or realizations, these 47 things easily came to mind randomly. See how many resonate with you. [Read more…]
People in general, but women in particular, have been through a whole lot and continue to go through a whole lot. From childhood to womanhood, we’ve had daddy issues, mommy issues, issues with friends and school, health issues, job issues, children issues, and man issues. One thing that I keep hearing said to, or about, some women is that “she needs a man to validate her.” And most often, the response is, “I don’t need anyone to validate me!”
And sometimes that’s true.
I had another one of my dreams last night. In my dream I was an apprentice for this really rich and nice looking guy. He was famous for many things, but especially for his “grind.” Everything he did seemed to be related to work and he was very successful. It seemed like he never slept. So as his apprentice, I did whatever he said—any hour of the day or night…and then I finally saw him sleep. When he woke up, he asked me, “Why isn’t this done?” Keep in mind, I worked the entire time he slept, doing exactly what he asked, to the best of my ability. I had not had any sleep. I had not had a break. And he had the nerve to ask why I wasn’t done?
I went slap off.
Are you really ready? How many times have we said we are ready for a new job, new house, new car, more money, or the right man? A gazillion right? When the truth of the matter is, we’re not ready.
We just ain’t ready.
I’ve said it many times before: your wanting something does not make you ready for it. And just because you have wanted it for a long time doesn’t mean you are prepared for it. [Read more…]