“God absolutely will give us the desires of our hearts when we are obedient to Him and have a clean heart. But, one thing the Bible commands us to do BEFORE we are to have what we want is to seek God. Go after God (Luke 10:27) and all of His righteousness and THEN He will add all of those things (even a Boaz) unto us.
Janelle is like many women. She’s a good Christian woman who’s unhappily married. She spends day in and day out, weeks at a time, serving her man and he is very unappreciative of her devotion. Janelle believes that she’s not receiving the love from her husband because she’s either not doing the right thing or not doing enough of the right thing, so she literally wears herself out trying to gain favor with her husband. She works outside their home takes care of their three children, helps pay the bills, cooks nightly, cleans every other day, and has sex as often as he wants without complaint. Even still, with all of that, she cries every day because her heart is unfulfilled because of the lack of a loving response from her husband. He doesn’t give her the random forehead kisses; he doesn’t give her hugs “just because,” he doesn’t compliment her on her beauty or even seem to notice how she looks. He doesn’t ever hold her hand, rub her feet, or send a smile her way. He doesn’t even have pleasant conversations with her. Romance? No, that never crosses his mind. The more Janelle does, the worse she feels. What’s wrong with this picture?” —from page 92