Are you really ready? How many times have we said we are ready for a new job, new house, new car, more money, or the right man? A gazillion right? When the truth of the matter is, we’re not ready.
We just ain’t ready.
I’ve said it many times before: your wanting something does not make you ready for it. And just because you have wanted it for a long time doesn’t mean you are prepared for it.
So, let’s look at some of the most common things we want. More money. You think you’re ready for more money? Yeah, me too…or at least I thought I was. But when I looked at how prepared I was to have more money, well…. I haven’t always done an awesome job of tracking my money. I would sometimes try to track my money in my head, calculating how much I spent that day and on what and how much I have left in a particular account. Then the next day comes, I may forget, then look at my balance online and know that I’ve lost track of something, or something hasn’t posted yet, and…what was that anyway? I wasn’t terrible with money, but certainly I needed to do better with what I had before I could expect much more. If not, I could mess around and lose it all. To make sure that doesn’t happen (and to position myself to receive more), I now make a point to write every transaction down.
Your history in a given situation is the best predictor of your performance with your desired outcome.
Now let’s look at relationships. You want a man who is loving, romantic, devoted, faithful and handles business. It wouldn’t hurt if he was fine either. You’ve wanted this, him, for a long time. You’re a good person, a fantastic woman with a good heart. That’s wonderful, but that doesn’t make you ready. How have you prepared for this great man? What steps have you taken to improve yourself? Assuming you want the best, are YOU at your best? Is a good heart all you have to offer? If we aren’t at our best, it’s like hoping for a king and presenting him with scraps. He ain’t gonna take it. And what’s deserving of our scraps? Scrappy men.
So, you may have the heart of a queen, but if you are presenting scraps, that doesn’t exactly make you desirable. That’s why I’m single now, by choice. I know I’m a wonderful woman, but I still have some areas that I need to work on. For example, I believe in being submissive (to my husband), to a lesser degree, to a boyfriend. But what I have to learn is how to be submissive without becoming weak. I’m a strong woman, but in my quest to be a good woman to a seemingly worthy man, this submission translates as weakness, and that should not be the case. So, I need to learn to be submissive without becoming weak. And I can learn this the more I walk in my own strength from the Lord and learning from Him true submission while remaining strong. This is important because the strong, God-fearing man that I want also wants a strong woman. You see how I can get into trouble here? If I’m blessed with what I want before I am able to keep it, I may lose it. Therefore, I am grateful to God in His infinite wisdom for NOT giving me what I want right now, and instead showing me what I need to improve in order to have AND keep what I want. (It’s like having someone with bad lungs and a two-pack a day cigarette habit wanting to be placed at the top of the transplant list. It’s not gonna happen! No one will get a new lung if they have not demonstrated they would value a new lung by stopping bad habits and improving their overall health and lifestyle.)
Another thing we are “ready” for is a hot body. We want those pounds gone right now! But the truth of the matter is,
if we kept eating the exact same way, that we’d start to see those pounds coming right back on within two weeks. We aren’t ready for the mini-miracles we ask for. The truth of the matter is, we need to eat the way we would if we wanted to maintain the hot body–before we even get the hot body. And, we need to workout, or train, regularly as well. What? You wanna wake up with a hot body and enjoy it for only a day? Oh, and let’s not forget our health; we want to feel better…but we keep smoking…and drinking…a lot. Really? Readiness and hypocrisy do not go hand in hand. We must learn to resolve our inner conflicts. Decide what you really want, what you really value, and go for it. When we value becoming our best selves more than we value the acquisition of anyTHING or anyONE, we will behave in a way that positions us to receive everything we want.
Let’s work on bettering ourselves and then we can have better. Until WE are better, we’re just going to keep getting more of what we’ve already gotten. Stop running. Stop wasting time. Stop spinning your wheels. Do the work. Get ready…for real.
To our best selves living our best lives,