Okay, I turned 47 (yes, 47—what? That’s not old!) yesterday and I’ve certainly learned, or realized, a lot more than 47 things in my 47 years. But, as I was reflecting on my life and some of my lessons, or realizations, these 47 things easily came to mind randomly. See how many resonate with you. [Read more…]
Okay. It may seem very simple, but as you get older, it doesn’t become as simple. Like, I was appalled when I realized I was 10 lbs heavier than I was used to being. My eating habits hadn’t changed, but I was older, so my metabolism slowed down. I wasn’t ready for that one. And at that same time I learned that as I was getting older, with my slower metabolism, I didn’t need as much food…yet, like I said, my eating habits hadn’t changed.
Well, guess what happened next? I kept getting older, changed jobs and wasn’t walking nearly as much (I rapidly walked the halls at my last job, now I drive to people’s homes all day), and my eating habits got to be pretty bad. AND, I was stressed all day and night dealing with a “personal” situation (you know what THAT was). So the job change, plus my getting older, plus my poor eating habits, plus my stress level was the perfect formula for me to gain almost an additional 10 lbs! What the heck?! [Read more…]
We’ve all heard of “quiet desperation,” which is when someone is suffering in silence, maybe feeling desperate to have a particular need met. Many times we only learn of their desperation after their suffering is over. At this point we usually hear someone say things like, “I didn’t know she was going through all THAT!” Or, “I had no idea. She never said a word.”
Loud desperation, on the other hand, is apparent to those “on the outside looking in.” If you look at a person’s life, the things they do, you can tell if they are desperate because they are living their desperation OUT LOUD. Here are some examples of loud desperation: [Read more…]
You know how it is, you hear a song you like and you push the replay button, or you’re watching a video and you push the replay button. You play it again and again until you know it by heart. Unfortunately, many of us hit the replay button when bad things happen—we play it again and again in our minds and just won’t let it go.
The dangers of hitting the replay button in your mind is that you are actually ruminating, or worrying, about whatever it is. You begin to relive it over and over, time and time again. This replay can cause stress, depression, obesity, a loss of present time, a loss of future time, unhappiness, feelings of unworthiness, hopelessness, physical pain, emotional pain, disease, anger, frustration, envy, jealousy, dementia…and the list actually could go on and on. [Read more…]
It hurts. It feels like someone has just ripped your heart right out of your chest. You feel like you just can’t go on, like every minute of every day is a reminder of the pain you feel–as if you could forget it. You don’t want to do anything, eat anything, go anyway with anybody. You just want to be left alone. And alone, you find yourself thinking more and feeling more. You just want to escape the pain…possibly sleep it away. But, the pain doesn’t end…until it does. And in order to get the pain to subside, even just a little, you have to get mad and DECIDE that enough is enough and you will not let this pain beat you. Pain will no longer be your bedfellow and you WILL stop sleeping with a broken heart. Here’s how I did it: [Read more…]