I remember a time when boys and girls were encouraged to go out in groups before dating one-on-one. Going out in groups gave everyone a chance to see how everyone else behaved in a variety of circumstances and with a variety of people. Double dating was encouraged. House parties were encouraged. Friendships developed. Somewhere along the way, we lost this, and skipped straight to, “He’s popular and fine, she’s funny and cute, let’s go out on a date.” The googly eyes started, then the handholding leading to kissing leading to…. And bam! Now they’re dating. Or going steady. Or going out. Or boyfriend-girlfriend. Or whatever you called it.
And then they broke up. [Read more…]