I remember a time when I prayed about everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING. And I also remember a time when I barely prayed at all. But when it comes to decision making, sometimes praying about it isn’t the answer. [Read more…]
It’s been over a year since I last wrote. Sometimes you have to just be still and let God work with you…and He has indeed been working with me. This is my truth…my journey….
In late summer 2015, my divorce became final. It became final, and I wasn’t sure exactly what I wanted to do next. What I DID know, was that I needed to honor myself by listening to myself, and learning what I truly wanted and needed. I knew that I could only learn this without distraction, which meant that I would make the conscious decision NOT to date. My not “dating” was not because I was scared of relationships or because I all of a sudden hated men, it was because I realized that whenever I really accomplished anything in my life (with the important exception of having my daughters), it was as a single woman. So, in order to gain the utmost clarity in my life, I would have to go it alone. [Read more…]
Have you ever been so angry that you couldn’t even see straight? Or so sick you couldn’t think about getting well? Or so upset and crying everywhere, eyes bloodshot and slobber all over the place? Or so heartbroken that you can’t even eat, sleep, work, or get out of bed? Those are the times most often when people will say, “Girl, just pray about it.” And that’s great advice, but you CAN’T just pray about it.
It’s not that simple. I know…I visited that place way too many times. Pray? I couldn’t even think straight. I’ve noticed three things about myself when I can’t even pray: 1) I’m all “in my feelings,” 2) I’m so incredibly focused on the problem, and 3) my body starts acting up: either I have aches and pains, or I gain or lose weight.
So, what do I do then?
People in general, but women in particular, have been through a whole lot and continue to go through a whole lot. From childhood to womanhood, we’ve had daddy issues, mommy issues, issues with friends and school, health issues, job issues, children issues, and man issues. One thing that I keep hearing said to, or about, some women is that “she needs a man to validate her.” And most often, the response is, “I don’t need anyone to validate me!”
And sometimes that’s true.
I know that I am not at the highest level I am destined to be at, so when I think about who I am at that higher level and connect with her/me, my higher self commands certain things of me now. I have decided to share these commandments with you and maybe you will realize that your higher self commands certain things of you as well. So, she who has an ear, let her hear. [Read more…]