People in general, but women in particular, have been through a whole lot and continue to go through a whole lot. From childhood to womanhood, we’ve had daddy issues, mommy issues, issues with friends and school, health issues, job issues, children issues, and man issues. One thing that I keep hearing said to, or about, some women is that “she needs a man to validate her.” And most often, the response is, “I don’t need anyone to validate me!”
Now get your head out of the gutter! LOL I’m talking about PERCEPTION. What if what you think is SO BIG is really so small? When you think about your problems, your heartaches, or that thing that made you angry, frustrated, or vengeful, you may tend to get all worked up. You may analyze it (a few times), stress over it, worry about it, and a few hours, days, months, or even years later, you have put so much emphasis on it–assigned so much time and energy to it–that you have
allowed it to change you.
I talk to so many women who have “dreams, goals, and aspirations,” however, are having a hard time moving forward in their lives. Or maybe they are moving forward, however, not as quickly as they would like. Perhaps it’s an issue of time or circumstance, but many times, it’s just plain, old fear.
Fear can be so incredibly paralyzing…and seemingly anonymous. You may say, “I don’t know why I can’t just get going,” or “I don’t know why I haven’t left this job,” or “I just can’t seem to lose this weight.” And because we many times don’t identify it, we don’t address it, and we live day in, day out, in “someday.”
Here are 3 of the most common fears women have that have us settling for less: [Read more…]