We often get angry when someone lies to us, or about us. But what about our own lies? What about the lies we tell ourselves about ourselves? I’m not talking about affirmations or “speaking things that are not as if they were.” I’m talking about telling untruths not only about our past or our present, about our lives, about our character, but about how we feel about our past or present. And then when the lies aren’t enough, we give ourselves an alibi, an excuse for staying the way we are. We would rather run from the pain (by lying and alibiing) about who we are and what we’ve been through, and how we feel about it, not realizing that it’s in facing the painful truth that ultimately can free us from our pain and enable our healing. [Read more…]
Just as like attracts like, broke attracts broke. It’s just an alternate way to look at the Law of Attraction. Whether it be emotional brokenness, financial brokenness, or any other kind of brokenness, broke attracts broke. That’s just how nature works.
And I think it’s kind of interesting how it works in relationships…and it may not manifest the way you would think it would. Take me for instance: I had had abandonment issues from childhood. I felt (the way you perceive and believe things as a child has the strong likelihood of shaping your future) abandoned by my biological father AND my adoptive father. A double whammy! My biological father was not available to me physically or emotionally and my adoptive father was not available to me emotionally. Can you imagine what that can do to a little girl?
So, fast forward through the years, I had unresolved issues that began to surface. [Read more…]