Wait? Oh heck naw! I had never been good at waiting. And from my conversations with different sistas, I have learned that I am not alone. The main thing that many women seem to be waiting for is a man. I guess that was me in my late 20s and in my 30s, but after having kids and being divorced, waiting on a man is not something I am currently doing.
Ladies, I woke up with this weighing heavily on my mind and I just had to put this out there. When it comes to listening to foolishness, we gots to be mo’ careful. I’m going to warn you now that this post will not be completely grammatically correct, so for those who just cannot deal with it, I will not be offended if you choose to miss this message…that may be meant for you.
We have got to stop being so gotdaggum stupid! There. I said it. And I know you may not agree, but it’s true. So, he gets you the first time…yeah, you got got. It happens…to all of us. But then again? And again? And again? Whoever said “follow your heart” gave the worst advice EVER and we keep listening to it! [Read more…]
Just as like attracts like, broke attracts broke. It’s just an alternate way to look at the Law of Attraction. Whether it be emotional brokenness, financial brokenness, or any other kind of brokenness, broke attracts broke. That’s just how nature works.
And I think it’s kind of interesting how it works in relationships…and it may not manifest the way you would think it would. Take me for instance: I had had abandonment issues from childhood. I felt (the way you perceive and believe things as a child has the strong likelihood of shaping your future) abandoned by my biological father AND my adoptive father. A double whammy! My biological father was not available to me physically or emotionally and my adoptive father was not available to me emotionally. Can you imagine what that can do to a little girl?
So, fast forward through the years, I had unresolved issues that began to surface. [Read more…]
I talk to so many women who have “dreams, goals, and aspirations,” however, are having a hard time moving forward in their lives. Or maybe they are moving forward, however, not as quickly as they would like. Perhaps it’s an issue of time or circumstance, but many times, it’s just plain, old fear.
Fear can be so incredibly paralyzing…and seemingly anonymous. You may say, “I don’t know why I can’t just get going,” or “I don’t know why I haven’t left this job,” or “I just can’t seem to lose this weight.” And because we many times don’t identify it, we don’t address it, and we live day in, day out, in “someday.”
Here are 3 of the most common fears women have that have us settling for less: [Read more…]
Many times we put sooooo much into our relationship, marriage and don’t feel that we are getting the same thing back. Many times we endow them men with certain privileges, that they don’t even really demonstrate that they want or deserve. So, what does the Bible say? Well, married folks are to love, honor, and care for each other. Married folks are not to withhold sex unless agreed upon for a time. Married folks are supposed to be faithful to each other in every way. So, if you are a Christian wife and are unevenly yoked with a husband who treats you like you are only a friend (for example, he doesn’t consistently wear his wedding band, most of his phone calls are private, quality time is sporadic, there’s little to no affection, “I love you”s are few and far between, etc.), then you decide for yourself how far you want to downgrade your treatment of him. I’m not going to tell you that it’s your duty as a wife to still have sex with him and he’s cheating. I’m not going to tell you that you should still cook for him when he habitually comes home at 3 o’clock in the morning with no explanation. What I AM saying is honor God and yourself and it’s okay to back off and back it up a bit. God’s intention is NOT for us to be used or abused. Let’s get it together. [Read more…]