Some sista somewhere is going to read the title and say, “Hmmm, I’ll read on, but that’s not me.” Read on, sista, read on. I sincerely hope it’s not you, but it may be. Heck, before I knew such a thing existed as a layaway sista, I was already one myself! [Read more…]
Ladies, I woke up with this weighing heavily on my mind and I just had to put this out there. When it comes to listening to foolishness, we gots to be mo’ careful. I’m going to warn you now that this post will not be completely grammatically correct, so for those who just cannot deal with it, I will not be offended if you choose to miss this message…that may be meant for you.
We have got to stop being so gotdaggum stupid! There. I said it. And I know you may not agree, but it’s true. So, he gets you the first time…yeah, you got got. It happens…to all of us. But then again? And again? And again? Whoever said “follow your heart” gave the worst advice EVER and we keep listening to it! [Read more…]
Okay, I turned 47 (yes, 47—what? That’s not old!) yesterday and I’ve certainly learned, or realized, a lot more than 47 things in my 47 years. But, as I was reflecting on my life and some of my lessons, or realizations, these 47 things easily came to mind randomly. See how many resonate with you. [Read more…]
I had another one of my dreams last night. In my dream I was an apprentice for this really rich and nice looking guy. He was famous for many things, but especially for his “grind.” Everything he did seemed to be related to work and he was very successful. It seemed like he never slept. So as his apprentice, I did whatever he said—any hour of the day or night…and then I finally saw him sleep. When he woke up, he asked me, “Why isn’t this done?” Keep in mind, I worked the entire time he slept, doing exactly what he asked, to the best of my ability. I had not had any sleep. I had not had a break. And he had the nerve to ask why I wasn’t done?
I went slap off.
Just as like attracts like, broke attracts broke. It’s just an alternate way to look at the Law of Attraction. Whether it be emotional brokenness, financial brokenness, or any other kind of brokenness, broke attracts broke. That’s just how nature works.
And I think it’s kind of interesting how it works in relationships…and it may not manifest the way you would think it would. Take me for instance: I had had abandonment issues from childhood. I felt (the way you perceive and believe things as a child has the strong likelihood of shaping your future) abandoned by my biological father AND my adoptive father. A double whammy! My biological father was not available to me physically or emotionally and my adoptive father was not available to me emotionally. Can you imagine what that can do to a little girl?
So, fast forward through the years, I had unresolved issues that began to surface. [Read more…]