It took forever for me to have an inkling as to what my purpose was. I had figured out that I liked being a sounding board, and helping women figure their relationship stuff out, but that was about it. At one crucial point in my life I had strongly considered getting a degree in counseling, but I allowed myself to be talked out of it by one simple phrase: “You won’t make any money in counseling.”
Recently, someone—once again—did something that was just WRONG. And I got to that point, like many of us do, where I was like, “Oh. That’s oooookay. I got something for that,” then mentally added them to my “ish list.” THIS time, however, after decades of having an ish list, I right away thought, “Now THAT’S negative.” I considered how long my ish list had grown through the years and thought, “Now this is ridiculous.” I was immediately reminded of the scripture that said love doesn’t keep score of the wrongs of others (see 1 Corinthians 13:3-7 [MSG]) and knew I had to make a mental change. A shift in my thinking was beginning to happen. [Read more…]
You know how it is, you hear a song you like and you push the replay button, or you’re watching a video and you push the replay button. You play it again and again until you know it by heart. Unfortunately, many of us hit the replay button when bad things happen—we play it again and again in our minds and just won’t let it go.
The dangers of hitting the replay button in your mind is that you are actually ruminating, or worrying, about whatever it is. You begin to relive it over and over, time and time again. This replay can cause stress, depression, obesity, a loss of present time, a loss of future time, unhappiness, feelings of unworthiness, hopelessness, physical pain, emotional pain, disease, anger, frustration, envy, jealousy, dementia…and the list actually could go on and on. [Read more…]