So, it’s done. I got my letter in the mail today; my divorce is final. I’ve announced that to my children, my mother, and one of my besties, but that’s it. And they all had pretty much the same question, “ARE YOU OKAY?” and that was a legitimate question. Was I okay? All things considered, I’d have to say, yes, I’m okay. But that’s the short version. The long version is this:Continue Reading
How many times have we said things like, “I’m NEVER going to let anyone hurt me again!” Or, “I’m NEVER going to fall in love again!” Or, “I’m not going to EVER let anyone get that close to me again!” And how about, “No one gets to EVER use me again!” Oh, and let’s not forget this one: “…I PROMISE you that!” This may be how we feel at the time; we’re speaking out from the pain of being so brokenhearted. But with these statements comes problems. How?
BECAUSE THESE STATEMENTS, FELT SO DEEPLY, ARE ACTUALLY VOWS (yes, vows) THAT WE ARE MAKING THAT CLOSE US OFF FROM THE POSSIBILITY OF HAVING WHAT IT IS THAT WE REALLY WANT. Continue Reading
You know how it is, you hear a song you like and you push the replay button, or you’re watching a video and you push the replay button. You play it again and again until you know it by heart. Unfortunately, many of us hit the replay button when bad things happen—we play it again and again in our minds and just won’t let it go.
The dangers of hitting the replay button in your mind is that you are actually ruminating, or worrying, about whatever it is. You begin to relive it over and over, time and time again. This replay can cause stress, depression, obesity, a loss of present time, a loss of future time, unhappiness, feelings of unworthiness, hopelessness, physical pain, emotional pain, disease, anger, frustration, envy, jealousy, dementia…and the list actually could go on and on.Continue Reading
It hurts. It feels like someone has just ripped your heart right out of your chest. You feel like you just can’t go on, like every minute of every day is a reminder of the pain you feel–as if you could forget it. You don’t want to do anything, eat anything, go anyway with anybody. You just want to be left alone. And alone, you find yourself thinking more and feeling more. You just want to escape the pain…possibly sleep it away. But, the pain doesn’t end…until it does. And in order to get the pain to subside, even just a little, you have to get mad and DECIDE that enough is enough and you will not let this pain beat you. Pain will no longer be your bedfellow and you WILL stop sleeping with a broken heart. Here’s how I did it: Continue Reading