How many times have we said things like, “I’m NEVER going to let anyone hurt me again!” Or, “I’m NEVER going to fall in love again!” Or, “I’m not going to EVER let anyone get that close to me again!” And how about, “No one gets to EVER use me again!” Oh, and let’s not forget this one: “…I PROMISE you that!” This may be how we feel at the time; we’re speaking out from the pain of being so brokenhearted. But with these statements comes problems. How?
BECAUSE THESE STATEMENTS, FELT SO DEEPLY, ARE ACTUALLY VOWS (yes, vows) THAT WE ARE MAKING THAT CLOSE US OFF FROM THE POSSIBILITY OF HAVING WHAT IT IS THAT WE REALLY WANT. [Read more…]