Some sista somewhere is going to read the title and say, “Hmmm, I’ll read on, but that’s not me.” Read on, sista, read on. I sincerely hope it’s not you, but it may be. Heck, before I knew such a thing existed as a layaway sista, I was already one myself! [Read more…]
I had another one of my dreams last night. In my dream I was an apprentice for this really rich and nice looking guy. He was famous for many things, but especially for his “grind.” Everything he did seemed to be related to work and he was very successful. It seemed like he never slept. So as his apprentice, I did whatever he said—any hour of the day or night…and then I finally saw him sleep. When he woke up, he asked me, “Why isn’t this done?” Keep in mind, I worked the entire time he slept, doing exactly what he asked, to the best of my ability. I had not had any sleep. I had not had a break. And he had the nerve to ask why I wasn’t done?
I went slap off.
Are you really ready? How many times have we said we are ready for a new job, new house, new car, more money, or the right man? A gazillion right? When the truth of the matter is, we’re not ready.
We just ain’t ready.
I’ve said it many times before: your wanting something does not make you ready for it. And just because you have wanted it for a long time doesn’t mean you are prepared for it. [Read more…]
So, the movie, The Perfect Guy, is now out. This movie, starring Sanaa Lathan, Michael Ealy, and Morris Chestnut is a really good movie. I won’t give you any spoilers, but I will say this: it’s a movie that should have many of us women reconsidering what we believe qualifies a man as “the perfect guy.”
Sadly, when too many of us meet a man, we may have that initial physical attraction, but let him say or do the right thing and we already try to find ways to put him in the “perfect” category without disqualifying him on any important level. Ladies, yes, we are emotional creatures (and they know this), but at some point we have got to be smarter than that. We have got to think with our heads and not so much with our hearts—at least initially.
When I think about some of my own “perfect guy” mishaps, and those of some of my friends and other women I have spoken with, there are some no-brainers that we overlooked–I mean, some of us didn’t even consider them. Here are 6 of the most obvious things I think we women should consider before allowing ourselves to become head-over-heels in love with “the perfect guy:” [Read more…]
You’d be surprised how many people are actually bullied in relationships–even as adults. The bullying could occur in an adult child-parent relationship, sibling relationship, friendship, dating relationship, or marital relationship. However it occurs, many times people don’t even realize what’s going on because WE’RE ADULTS and who thinks about adults being bullied?
So, before I go further, I want you to know that you are a fabulous creation of God. God treats you well and it is His intention that you be treated well by others. You are too important; you come with your own purpose, your own gifts and talents—the devil sends many to stifle what God has given you, and he comes disguised, oftentimes cloaked in the shadows behind someone you love. [Read more…]