Some sista somewhere is going to read the title and say, “Hmmm, I’ll read on, but that’s not me.” Read on, sista, read on. I sincerely hope it’s not you, but it may be. Heck, before I knew such a thing existed as a layaway sista, I was already one myself! [Read more…]
Okay, I turned 47 (yes, 47—what? That’s not old!) yesterday and I’ve certainly learned, or realized, a lot more than 47 things in my 47 years. But, as I was reflecting on my life and some of my lessons, or realizations, these 47 things easily came to mind randomly. See how many resonate with you. [Read more…]
Are you really ready? How many times have we said we are ready for a new job, new house, new car, more money, or the right man? A gazillion right? When the truth of the matter is, we’re not ready.
We just ain’t ready.
I’ve said it many times before: your wanting something does not make you ready for it. And just because you have wanted it for a long time doesn’t mean you are prepared for it. [Read more…]
Just as like attracts like, broke attracts broke. It’s just an alternate way to look at the Law of Attraction. Whether it be emotional brokenness, financial brokenness, or any other kind of brokenness, broke attracts broke. That’s just how nature works.
And I think it’s kind of interesting how it works in relationships…and it may not manifest the way you would think it would. Take me for instance: I had had abandonment issues from childhood. I felt (the way you perceive and believe things as a child has the strong likelihood of shaping your future) abandoned by my biological father AND my adoptive father. A double whammy! My biological father was not available to me physically or emotionally and my adoptive father was not available to me emotionally. Can you imagine what that can do to a little girl?
So, fast forward through the years, I had unresolved issues that began to surface. [Read more…]
What I know about scars is this: God said that we can heal, however, He did not promise that we would not have scars. Generally, the deeper the injury, the worse the scar. When we have a physical injury, first the blood clots to stop the bleeding, then cells come to remove the clot and replace with proteins that help to rebuild the skin. Or something like that. And, depending on where the injury was and how bad the scar was (in color, shape, thickness, location, etc.), we may not be able to function normally.
What are we supposed to do about physical scars if we want to minimize their appearance? Well, depending on the type and location of scar, you may want to lighten it if it’s much darker than you prefer, you can massage it to break down the scar tissue so it won’t be thick, or keloidal, and if it’s in an area that affects your function, you can still try to massage it, or you may consider surgical removal. Or, you can just use makeup and cover it up.
Now, let’s apply this to scars of the heart, or heart scars. [Read more…]