I was watching a movie this past weekend, “BIG MOMMA: Like Father, Like Son,” and in this movie there is a scene where a girl gets a text from her boyfriend that says, “need space.” She immediately explodes into tears and her friends try to comfort her by telling her that that’s not what he really meant; they proceeded to read all kinds of emotional stuff into what he said to let her know that he’s just confused or going through some stuff right now. She immediately felt better, but then the “Like Son” character basically says, “Are you kidding me? He said, ‘need space,’ so he needs space!” And, again, the girl became upset.

How many times, ladies, do men show us something, then confirm it with their mouths, and we STILL want to interpret it as meaning something else in our favor? We are bad about this. Yes, I said “we.” There have been a few times in my life where I ignored what I saw, and instead believed what I wanted to believe. I wasted a lot of time and experienced a lot of long term heartache because of it. And so I have learned. There is a secret formula to deciphering this madness. The secret formula is this: Continue reading »