It took forever for me to have an inkling as to what my purpose was. I had figured out that I liked being a sounding board, and helping women figure their relationship stuff out, but that was about it. At one crucial point in my life I had strongly considered getting a degree in counseling, but I allowed myself to be talked out of it by one simple phrase: “You won’t make any money in counseling.”
Okay. It may seem very simple, but as you get older, it doesn’t become as simple. Like, I was appalled when I realized I was 10 lbs heavier than I was used to being. My eating habits hadn’t changed, but I was older, so my metabolism slowed down. I wasn’t ready for that one. And at that same time I learned that as I was getting older, with my slower metabolism, I didn’t need as much food…yet, like I said, my eating habits hadn’t changed.
Well, guess what happened next? I kept getting older, changed jobs and wasn’t walking nearly as much (I rapidly walked the halls at my last job, now I drive to people’s homes all day), and my eating habits got to be pretty bad. AND, I was stressed all day and night dealing with a “personal” situation (you know what THAT was). So the job change, plus my getting older, plus my poor eating habits, plus my stress level was the perfect formula for me to gain almost an additional 10 lbs! What the heck?! [Read more…]
Many times we put sooooo much into our relationship, marriage and don’t feel that we are getting the same thing back. Many times we endow them men with certain privileges, that they don’t even really demonstrate that they want or deserve. So, what does the Bible say? Well, married folks are to love, honor, and care for each other. Married folks are not to withhold sex unless agreed upon for a time. Married folks are supposed to be faithful to each other in every way. So, if you are a Christian wife and are unevenly yoked with a husband who treats you like you are only a friend (for example, he doesn’t consistently wear his wedding band, most of his phone calls are private, quality time is sporadic, there’s little to no affection, “I love you”s are few and far between, etc.), then you decide for yourself how far you want to downgrade your treatment of him. I’m not going to tell you that it’s your duty as a wife to still have sex with him and he’s cheating. I’m not going to tell you that you should still cook for him when he habitually comes home at 3 o’clock in the morning with no explanation. What I AM saying is honor God and yourself and it’s okay to back off and back it up a bit. God’s intention is NOT for us to be used or abused. Let’s get it together. [Read more…]