I know that I am not at the highest level I am destined to be at, so when I think about who I am at that higher level and connect with her/me, my higher self commands certain things of me now. I have decided to share these commandments with you and maybe you will realize that your higher self commands certain things of you as well. So, she who has an ear, let her hear.
The Ten Commandments of Thy Higher Self
- Thou shalt worship thy God upon waking, throughout the day, and when the sun goes down. God is the reason I wake up at all. How many mornings do I neglect to praise Him? Too many. I do remember to worship Him throughout the day and before I go to bed, but my higher self is calling me to do better.
- Thou shalt affirm thyself daily. Okay. So I’m past the point of dogging myself about every little thing I do or have done wrong, but, I still need to remember to remind myself that Jesus says I’m to die for. In fact, He proved that I’m to die for. So, every day, I need to tell myself, “Joy, girl you are to die for!” And I need to believe it because He said it and He DID it and He is the best in heaven and on earth! He gave me promise and purpose and I need to be about it daily.
- Thou shalt earn thine own coin. When you make your own money, there is very little that anyone can hold over you or use to control you. You don’t have to depend on a man’s whim to give you what you want or need. There’s power in that. A man isn’t a meal plan, vacation plan, retirement plan, or even a good backup plan. THIS I have learned the hard way. Love or no love, I shalt have mine own coin.
- Thou shalt render thine own verdict. I do make my own decisions, however, my higher self is calling me to do a better job of it. Sometimes, instead of getting feedback from those closest to me, I need to just dig deep and commune with God to find my answers within. There’s nothing wrong with having sounding boards, but the opinions of those close to me should not be the basis for making the decisions I make.
- Thou shalt guard thy heart. Lawd! This is a big one, but I think I’ve finally got it now. I can’t, we can’t, hand over something so precious as our hearts to every fine face or chocolate body. No sirree! There is too much at stake to fall for that. I, we, have got to stay focused on our goals. As a matter of fact, at this very point in my life, I know more of what I don’t want, than what I do. A rather interesting person once said, “If you know what you want, you’ll know it when you see it.” Yeah, that didn’t work for me. So, I say to myself, “Joy, if you know what you DON’T want, you’ll know THAT when you see it.” Yeah, now that works a lot better for me. How about you?
- Thou shalt mind thine own business. There are some tidbits of info from other people’s lives that strike me as curious from time to time, however, if you don’t outright share your business with me, I’m certainly not going to dig for it. Contrary to the nosiness trait that runs in my very loving family, it didn’t run this way. Anyway, I’m much too busy trying to handle my own business than to dig through and be concerned about, somebody else’s. “Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before.” (italics mine) 1 Thessalonians 4:11
- Thou shalt ignite thy words cautiously. Choose your words carefully. Yes, yes. This is one thing I have struggled with most of my life. Some elders (older folk), and some friends, use to tell me that I had no tact. If I thought it, I said it. That is so immature! Even the Bible teaches against that and refers to such a person as a fool. Well, I decided I didn’t want to be a fool anymore. Now, I usually watch what I say. I think before I say things. The more delicate the situation, the more carefully I choose my words. I’m so careful sometimes that I now have people telling me, “Just spit it out!” Nope. I’m not rushing because I want to say what I mean and mean what I say.
- Thou shalt master thy emotions. This was HUGE. Children cry and whine all the time about everything. Children stomp, get mad, and pout when they can’t have their way. There is nothing cute about a grown woman doing any of this. A long time ago, my higher self called me to grow the heck up! Be calm. Be cool. Think! Crying is fine, when the situation calls for it (although I do try to avoid the very loud public boo hoo), but yelling and cutting a straight fool was an absolute no-no for my higher self. And another thing: I needed to stop making decisions based on how I felt. Smart decisions are made based on what you think, not on how you feel. So, in order for me to focus on what I think, instead of what I’m feeling, I have to write things down. It’s something about seeing it in black and white that makes it make sense and eliminate emotion. Then, I can make better decisions and can deal with my emotions later.
- Thou shalt honor thy temple. Now this isn’t about to be a tell-all, but let me just say that I was a little more sexually free when I was younger. I know now there is so much wrong with that. It’s unhealthy–so many diseases, especially life-threatening diseases, running (or swimming) around out there. Then there’s the spiritual side of it. Who wants a whole lot of other peoples’ demons roaming around meshing with their spirit? Then there’s the emotional side of it—you get all caught up feeling something that you may think, and hope, is love, but it’s not. And how many queens have you ever heard of that had sex with every Michael, Jamal, and Tyrone? Not a one. So my higher self called me to shut it down. And I did. — But it didn’t stop there. I had to also honor my temple by moving towards a healthier lifestyle that included better food choices, maintaining a healthy weight, becoming physically fit, getting enough rest and relaxation…uh huh. I’m still struggling with some of this, but I am on the right path. — Never mind the fact that “we were bought with a price” and “the Holy Spirit lives within.” When you think of it like that, you WANT to do better, at least I did…do.
- Thou shalt caress thy soul. Aaaaahhhhh…. This right here. My higher self reminds me that there is a depth to me that must be nurtured. Poetry, scented candles, candlelight, incense, red wine, massages, soft jazz, R&B, or neosoul, affirmations, reading, meditation, long walks, quiet, stillness, and all things water all help to nourish my soul. It’s important to connect with, and feel, your essence. It’s important to listen to yourself breathe and be conscious of yourself being still. It’s important to be centered and grounded. It’s important to just BE. This is how I caress my soul.
You may not be who you are meant to be, but on any given day, at any given moment, you can make the decision to follow God’s path for you. Even if you are unclear of your purpose, just follow His gentle tug. Try to envision, the YOU that you are supposed to be. Try to connect with your higher self, your future self, and let her make your journey more fulfilling.
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