Have you ever known anyone who seemed like they, either woman or man, were not happy unless they had some mess going on? It was like drama energized them? These people literally feel blah inside unless they are involved in some mess.
Some people just seem to be wired that way. Some people seem to think having drama gives attention and purpose to them and their lives. And some people grew up with drama, so they don’t know any other way. You may hear all of these people saying they want peace, or they just want to get along or have a better relationship, but their addiction to drama won’t let them have peace. If there isn’t any drama, they are almost guaranteed to create it.
Let’s assume you aren’t addicted to drama, and in fact, desire a drama-free life. What can being in a friendship, romantic relationship, or any other relationship with a drama addict do to you? It can have many unhealthy effects on you. It can:
1. cause you to second guess yourself
2. keep you in an almost constant state of frustration
3. cause you to lose focus
4. stress you out (which can cause unhealthy weight loss or gain which can lead to other health issues)
5. cause depression and/or anxiety
6. cause loss of attention (both focused and maintained)
7. cause anger issues
8. cause low self-esteem
9. cause fatigue or low energy
10. cause loss of motivation
11. cause you to be judgmental
12. cause you to waste time
13. cause you to lose money
14. cause you to lose opportunities
15. cause you to get stuck in life, or go backward
So while you may be experiencing any one, or all of the above effects, what are they getting out of it? The person addicted to drama is most assuredly getting some need fulfilled; the need for attention, to feel important, to feel worthy, to punish, or to inflict pain.
Unless you are their healer, spiritual adviser, counselor, or therapist, it may be wise for you to put some distance between you and the drama addict, especially if you have started to feel some of the effects of being in any sort of relationship with them…unless, of course, you can afford to feel the effects of dealing with them….
But, what if you are already dealing with someone addicted to drama? What if they create drama, wreak havoc, and are just generally messy? Then you will need to do what I just said, create some space between the two of you. You may need to create mental, emotional, and physical space. What this means is you may need to stop seeing or talking to them so much and when you do talk to them, don’t encourage their antics.
What can you do to recover from the effects of dealing with them? You can focus again on yourself! Simply put, you can:
1. get back on track. Exercise, make your money back, regain control over your time, pray, meditate, regroup!
2. do things that bring you joy.
3. spend time with people who help to replenish you.
4. avoid other types of drama (in case you actually attract drama). Maury Povich, Jerry Springer, the Housewives, and others, may just have to go. If you keep getting drama in your life, you are attracting it somehow. Start with evaluating what you look at, what you listen to, and what you read.
5. check yourself. Make sure there is no sign on your forehead, or your back, that reads, “Drama Welcome Here.” You may have something going on within you that you have not yet realized. Spend some time figuring it out.
It’s hard to prosper and live the good life when we allow drama and any other kind of mess in our lives. Decide to “gitcho life” today and start figuring out who and what drama needs to go. Your joy awaits you.
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