I firmly believe in affirmations, but I have learned that affirmations are not always good for everyone. For instance, to affirm everyday in the mirror that you are strong, beautiful, fearless, or skinny, may not work for you if you don’t BELIEVE it. Yes, you need to have positive self-talk, but when positive self-talk feels like flat out lies, it won’t work.
Then what do you do?
I use to have affirmations all over my bathroom mirror, refrigerator door, front door, in my car, etc. On a good day I would feel empowered, but on a bad day, I’d say to myself, “Girl, quit lying. You know you lying.” Eventually, I’d become discouraged and ignore them before taking them down.
But now, I mostly use scripture. Instead of telling myself that I am blah, blah, blah, I now affirm what God has said about me. You know, things like:
“I am worth dying for.” (See John 3:16)
“I have a spirit of power, love, and sound mind.” (See 2 Timothy 1:7)
“God will give me love, peace, strength, wisdom, understanding, courage, guidance, a new house, and anything else I need. He is my Source.” (See Philippians 4:19)
“I can do anything as long as I have Jesus.” (See Philippians 4:13)
“I am never stuck. There is always a way out.” (See 1 Corinthians 10:13)
“I am never alone. Jesus is always with me.” (See Matthew 28:20)
And so forth, and so on. I can believe what God tells me even when I cannot believe the nice, empowering things I want to tell myself. So, now on a bad day (which are now fewer bad days), instead of repeating an affirmation and feeling like I’m lying to myself, I either quote scripture or paraphrase it to personalize it. Then God’s words speak to me; they become real for me, and I become empowered with the truth because God cannot lie.
So, if you’re at a point in your life where affirmations just aren’t working, try scripture. And if affirmations DO work for you, try scripture anyway. God can do far more for you than you can do for, and by, yourself.
In peace and love,