While in a relationship, cheating is whatever you two agree that it is. Or, you may have your own personal views of cheating. But, most people would at least agree that cheating is when one or both people show attention or affection to anyone else on an emotional or sexual level who is not their significant other.
1. Serious flirting. Now there’s playful, harmless flirting, where neither person takes it seriously. Then there’s serious flirting. The piercing eye contact, the delicate, targeted touches, the sexual innuendos during conversation, the fantasy talk, the coy smiles, the lip licking, the endearments, the strategically stated compliments, exchanging pictures—you get the picture. All of this cheating behavior can suggest that somebody wants sex. Some of this can occur over the phone, over the internet, by snail mail, or in person.
2. Personal, emotional conversation. Confiding in someone other than your mate on a personal, emotional level opens your heart up to them. If it’s one of your BFF’s, that’s different. But to open your heart to someone who could rival your mate, even in theory, poses a problem for your relationship. Your heart will ultimately become torn between the two. This, too, can occur over the phone, over the internet, by snail mail, or in person and it’s cheating.
3. Circulating sexually suggestive pictures. Giving out or posting revealing pictures to a particular person, or no one in particular, while you are in a serious relationship (especially marriage) with someone is cheating. You are advertising something that should not be on the market. Even as a single, Christian woman, this would be advertising something that should not be on the market at all anyway.
4. Oral sex. Seriously. Yes, oral sex counts as sex (the operative word IS sex), and if you are doing it with someone other than your spouse, you are cheating. “Private parts” are private. If they are shared with other people in ANY way, it’s cheating.
5. Romantic encounters. Touching, feeling, fondling, kissing, caressing, candlelight dinners—all are a form of cheating. Anything remotely romantically shared with someone else, where feelings (or sexual arousal) get stirred up, is cheating.
6. The no-brainer: sexual intercourse. This is the obvious one; the one that almost everyone agrees on. If you have sexual intercourse with someone other than your spouse, it’s cheating.
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