Recently, someone—once again—did something that was just WRONG. And I got to that point, like many of us do, where I was like, “Oh. That’s oooookay. I got something for that,” then mentally added them to my “ish list.” THIS time, however, after decades of having an ish list, I right away thought, “Now THAT’S negative.” I considered how long my ish list had grown through the years and thought, “Now this is ridiculous.” I was immediately reminded of the scripture that said love doesn’t keep score of the wrongs of others (see 1 Corinthians 13:3-7 [MSG]) and knew I had to make a mental change. A shift in my thinking was beginning to happen.
I was keeping the wrong list.
Instead of keeping an ish list, I should be more positive—I should rip my ish list up (mentally), throw it away, and start a new list. Instead of keeping track of all the people who did me wrong and their wrongs, as if I was going to get revenge or pay back their wrongs in some way, which is harboring negativity I don’t need or want, I should change my focus. I should instead forget about them and focus on those who love and support me. I should focus on those who are good and do good. If I have any kind of list, it should be to keep track of positive people, who help me along the way by whatever way they can—words of encouragement, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or mental, spiritual, emotional or financial support.
Instead of having an ish list, I should have a love list.
And so I have started my love list and it’s filled with fantastic people who make me smile and bring joy to my days. I focus on adding to a list of wonderful people who are supportive and giving and I look forward to showing each of them how much I appreciate them and value the many different ways they add to my life. Having a love list is so much more fulfilling and brings my soul much more peace and joy. When negativity happens now, instead of adding those people to an ish list, I dismiss them, simply knowing that I cannot and will not add them to my love list. Not everyone will be added to my love list, and I’m okay with that. As long as I have an active love list, where I both can give to and receive from, I know that my focus is in a positive direction and I will be just fine.
In love and positivity,