Last Saturday my hairstylist and I had a bit of a scheduling conflict. Since my hair was NOT looking like ME, I decided not to do the headwrap thang and instead opted for doing it myself…no small feat. So, I headed to Wally World with determination in tow, got there and made a beeline directly for the hair section. I went for something that smelled good, but would not take my hair out. After making my selections, then heading to the checkout counter, my spidey-sense started tingling.
I unloaded my cart: clippers, light hair oil, soft spritz, barrettes for my little girl, a box of relaxer. The cashier rang it all up, bagged it, and sent me on my way. My spidey-sense was tingling again, louder this time. My heart rate went up. “Okay. What is it now?” I thought. Then I KNEW, “The alarm is going to go off on ME.” Geez! And it’s sooooo loud. Where did I put that receipt? I am soooo not in the mood for this today! These thoughts and more ran threw my head. Then, Spirit spoke to me.
“This is a test,” Spirit said. Now didn’t I just blog about tests? Okay, I thought, but I still wasn’t in the mood with my head lookin’ a hot mess!
Sure enough, the alarm went off on me…LOUDLY. The Wally World lady said, “Miss, may I see your bags?” Now, back in the day, I would have INSTANTLY started complaining, smackin’ my lips, and rollin’ my eyes, but instead I simply and sweetly responded, “Sure.” The culprit was the clippers. While I had paid for them, the sensor was not deactivated when the cashier rang it up. “I’m so sorry about that,” the Wally World lady said after checking my receipt against my purchases, satisfied that she had not nabbed a thief with jacked up hair. “No problem,” I assured her. Although I behaved appropriately, for a split second, it WAS a problem. I was aggravated. But then I quickly realized the lessons I had been learning. NOBODY AND NOTHING IS PERFECT. I’m not perfect. The cashier wasn’t perfect. The Wally World lady wasn’t perfect. The Wally World alarm system was not perfect. There was no need for aggravation. This is the world we live in. We live in an imperfect world. When we come to this realization, there are only three options: 1) accept that things may happen from time to time that inconvenience us and respond accordingly with grace and humility (and most of the time it’s not personal) or 2) show our butts and let the world know that we have neither class nor couth or 3) find a perfect world to move to where we are the center of it and send everyone the forwarding address.
Since option 2 is just ignorant, and option 3 is impossible, we only have one plausible option: option 1. Let’s graduate from small thinking: thinking that the world revolves around us; expecting others to be perfect when we ourselves are not perfect; believing that everything and everyone is “out to get us.” Let’s step fully into our adulthood, our womanhood, our Christianity. “When I was a child, I thought as a child, but when I became a WOMAN, I put away childish things.” My sisters, let’s put away those childish thoughts and childish behaviors! Control your mind, will, emotions, body, and your mouth! Control yourself! “Don’t sweat the small stuff” and handle the big stuff with all the goodness God has given you!
Let’s grow up!
Still reaching, still growing…