I was lying in bed this morning, going through Bible Plans on my phone, and stumbled upon the Serenity Plan. I’ve always liked that word…serenity. So my interest was piqued and I started reading ahead and got to day 4. Day 4 encourages self-reflection and self-inventory. It encourages you to be painfully honest with yourself about yourself; it encourages you to admit what has hurt you deeply and also to admit what you did to hurt others so that you can eventually get to a place of healing and restoration. [Read more…]
People in general, but women in particular, have been through a whole lot and continue to go through a whole lot. From childhood to womanhood, we’ve had daddy issues, mommy issues, issues with friends and school, health issues, job issues, children issues, and man issues. One thing that I keep hearing said to, or about, some women is that “she needs a man to validate her.” And most often, the response is, “I don’t need anyone to validate me!”
And sometimes that’s true.
During one of the many times I ponder things, I wondered why—how—so many people become stuck in their lives,
never seeming to move forward, never seeming to get ahead…me included. Then I took a closer look at myself—something I try to do often. And here is what I have come up with. It basically boils down to these three things:
- Too many of us are stuck because we are too scared to leave our comfort zone. We are too scared to try something new: a new job, friend, man, car, house, city, profession, food, doctor, fitness routine, business…whatever. So we operate within a self-imposed bubble, hoping, wishing, and praying that our relief, miracle, or success will come to us, within the safety and ease of our tight bubble. I had to picture it like this: I’m surrounded by what’s familiar, what’s comfortable—physically, mentally, [Read more…]
Just as like attracts like, broke attracts broke. It’s just an alternate way to look at the Law of Attraction. Whether it be emotional brokenness, financial brokenness, or any other kind of brokenness, broke attracts broke. That’s just how nature works.
And I think it’s kind of interesting how it works in relationships…and it may not manifest the way you would think it would. Take me for instance: I had had abandonment issues from childhood. I felt (the way you perceive and believe things as a child has the strong likelihood of shaping your future) abandoned by my biological father AND my adoptive father. A double whammy! My biological father was not available to me physically or emotionally and my adoptive father was not available to me emotionally. Can you imagine what that can do to a little girl?
So, fast forward through the years, I had unresolved issues that began to surface. [Read more…]
What I know about scars is this: God said that we can heal, however, He did not promise that we would not have scars. Generally, the deeper the injury, the worse the scar. When we have a physical injury, first the blood clots to stop the bleeding, then cells come to remove the clot and replace with proteins that help to rebuild the skin. Or something like that. And, depending on where the injury was and how bad the scar was (in color, shape, thickness, location, etc.), we may not be able to function normally.
What are we supposed to do about physical scars if we want to minimize their appearance? Well, depending on the type and location of scar, you may want to lighten it if it’s much darker than you prefer, you can massage it to break down the scar tissue so it won’t be thick, or keloidal, and if it’s in an area that affects your function, you can still try to massage it, or you may consider surgical removal. Or, you can just use makeup and cover it up.
Now, let’s apply this to scars of the heart, or heart scars. [Read more…]