I was lying in bed this morning, going through Bible Plans on my phone, and stumbled upon the Serenity Plan. I’ve always liked that word…serenity. So my interest was piqued and I started reading ahead and got to day 4. Day 4 encourages self-reflection and self-inventory. It encourages you to be painfully honest with yourself about yourself; it encourages you to admit what has hurt you deeply and also to admit what you did to hurt others so that you can eventually get to a place of healing and restoration. [Read more…]
Ladies, I woke up with this weighing heavily on my mind and I just had to put this out there. When it comes to listening to foolishness, we gots to be mo’ careful. I’m going to warn you now that this post will not be completely grammatically correct, so for those who just cannot deal with it, I will not be offended if you choose to miss this message…that may be meant for you.
We have got to stop being so gotdaggum stupid! There. I said it. And I know you may not agree, but it’s true. So, he gets you the first time…yeah, you got got. It happens…to all of us. But then again? And again? And again? Whoever said “follow your heart” gave the worst advice EVER and we keep listening to it! [Read more…]
What I know about scars is this: God said that we can heal, however, He did not promise that we would not have scars. Generally, the deeper the injury, the worse the scar. When we have a physical injury, first the blood clots to stop the bleeding, then cells come to remove the clot and replace with proteins that help to rebuild the skin. Or something like that. And, depending on where the injury was and how bad the scar was (in color, shape, thickness, location, etc.), we may not be able to function normally.
What are we supposed to do about physical scars if we want to minimize their appearance? Well, depending on the type and location of scar, you may want to lighten it if it’s much darker than you prefer, you can massage it to break down the scar tissue so it won’t be thick, or keloidal, and if it’s in an area that affects your function, you can still try to massage it, or you may consider surgical removal. Or, you can just use makeup and cover it up.
Now, let’s apply this to scars of the heart, or heart scars. [Read more…]
So it’s been a few days since I got the letter stating that my divorce was final. Some trusted that I was okay; others, I believe, waited for “the other shoe to drop.” I said then, that I was okay, and I’m still saying now that I’M OKAY. What most people don’t know, or understand, is that while there is a grieving process to all loss, whether it is the death of a loved one, loss of a job or home, or the end of a marriage, grieving can occur at any time.
For me, personally, my grieving time came during my marriage. I know many people don’t start their grieving until the end of their marriage, or when the ink is fresh on the divorce papers, but that wasn’t the case for me. I started grieving years before the official end of my marriage. In spite of my hopes, dreams, and prayers that my marriage would be saved, I saw signs of THE END throughout my marriage–and the second separation was a definite sign, even if I wanted to ignore all the others. So I went through the grieving process, and went through most of the stages…a few times. And this is why I refer to my grieving as GOOD grief, because while I was praying for one thing, the Lord helped me to clearly see what I needed to see and understand, which allowed me the opportunity to start grieving early. The Lord, while He didn’t save my marriage, saved me from having to go “cold turkey” and I am grateful for that.
While I was going through my GOOD grief, I went through most of the 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
So, it’s done. I got my letter in the mail today; my divorce is final. I’ve announced that to my children, my mother, and one of my besties, but that’s it. And they all had pretty much the same question, “ARE YOU OKAY?” and that was a legitimate question. Was I okay? All things considered, I’d have to say, yes, I’m okay. But that’s the short version. The long version is this: [Read more…]